Hi, ...ok well this is kinda disheartening (if that is even a word) but i am over 18 now and have had a bf for a long time.....
We have known eachother for ages and have been wanting to have sex for ages but im finding it way too painful. We have treid lots of things like changing postition, using lube and ive been to the doctors....but after all that it still hurts when he tries to get it in. Hes not particuallr large...so am i just being a wuss?? (doesnt help that its a long term relationship and that i am at uni and hes at home)
any suggestions????...or do i just need to get it over with no matter what the pain???
you really just need some one who knows what they are doing and how to really get you in the mood and really turned on!! it is not you! well if you need some help let me know i will help you as much as i can.
Callista-
When u went to the Dr. what went on? like u told them what was going on and they said what?
Im having the same problem-except Im married! and I cant make love! It's awful! The pain just turns me off each time-
They say that try to Orgasm first then try-I havent tried that yet-but I just cant get past the pain!
i have never heard of sex hurting a girl so much the first time that she just had to stop and not go any farther. my sympathies to you. i would just suggest that you use lots of lube. try ky warming jell. it works wonders. the first time can be painful but maybe if you can just put the pain out of your mind and just relax then your muscles wont tense up as much allowing for an easier entry. after the first few times it doesnt hurt so much any more and then you start to really enjoy it.
Has he tried fingering you? if you experiment with that then you will get loosened up a little bit more and the size of his penis wont be as shocking to you. experiment and have fun. try to suffer through the first time and i know you wont regret it.
I just turned 18 recently and lost my virginity. I thought it would be impossible but it wasn't. I had tried it earlier with someone else and it hurt but I became comfortable with the guy and we touched each other a lot. He did oral down there a couple times before we actually had sex. That helped a lot! I've noticed that if im nervous or worried or anything it's 487529 times harder than it is if im relaxed. My best advice is try oral a couple times first and relax :)
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